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Post by Ghost00 on Nov 30, 2015 10:17:47 GMT -5
Can I.... like.... say something on this thread.... or...?
I don't even know... sometimes I think I bother people way too much ^^
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2015 11:37:55 GMT -5
Can I.... like.... say something on this thread.... or...? I don't even know... sometimes I think I bother people way too much ^^ Why not? (°Just don't ask me for Money...'cause i am Broke...ha!) (JK) My Day was fUN:::Rain, Rain, Rain...more Rain. I did absolutely NOTHING over the Weekend - i feel like i wasted a Weekend; (Hanging Head in Shame...). Just lied on the Couch, like a Sloth, with the remote and not really watching the T.V. - more like a Zombie half asleep, with Drool occasionally' waking me up. Then, it was Monday already - in the Blink of an Eye...Friggin' Monday. Ha! Tonight, i plan on doing something EXCITING with an Xmas Tree for the Game, it popped into my head @ Lunch Break. A little Demented Sims4 Fairy visits me, sometimes...and whispers Strange things. Ha! I feed her Chemicals - The Good Stuff with the High Ph. ;°P - Rock On! |
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Post by believe&become on Nov 30, 2015 12:42:29 GMT -5
Can I.... like.... say something on this thread.... or...? I don't even know... sometimes I think I bother people way too much ^^ What's on your mind? Say anything! You're not bothering anyone! If they are not interested in what you talk about, if they have any manners, they'll just not bother to answer. And that's not always a bad thing!  Anyway, I'm listening. You have my attention.  You can also private message me if you want - if it helps any, I'm shy too but I kind of learnt to overcome it most of the time. Have a lovely evening!  |
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Post by Ghost00 on Nov 30, 2015 16:25:15 GMT -5
Can I.... like.... say something on this thread.... or...? I don't even know... sometimes I think I bother people way too much ^^ What's on your mind? Say anything! You're not bothering anyone! If they are not interested in what you talk about, if they have any manners, they'll just not bother to answer. And that's not always a bad thing! Anyway, I'm listening. You have my attention. You can also private message me if you want - if it helps any, I'm shy too but I kind of learnt to overcome it most of the time. Have a lovely evening! Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm probably the shyest person on the planet. The truth is that i'm Always so shy and insecure due to bullying and lack of self-esteem. I mean, I know i'm a bit of a odd person. I just want to talk with someone and to make friends, to be as kind as possible, because everyone needs a kind word once in a while. 
I really do not speak that much (expecially in real life) and I have something like the social anxiety. you know, the fear of being judged strikes over and over again, after 4 years of bullying 
Things get better, by the wayyyy 
I'm so embarassed right now, like I don't even know xD
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Post by believe&become on Nov 30, 2015 19:10:00 GMT -5
Oh my dear Ghost00 nothing to be embarrassed about... I've always been supershy, and though for the most of it, I have it under control, I still have social anxiety sometimes, especially if I'm not feeling well and I "have" to go out, and feel that people will judge me for being... well anything really, too young, too old, overweight, underweight, not dressed nicely, overdressed... There are many things that help with that sort of thing, but one of them that works for me is to ask myself, does the person judging me (or that I think might judge me) mean anything to me? Like, it's kind of normal for people to want their parents, siblings, best friends to think well of you, but do you really need the cashier lady to approve of whether you had time to put makeup on? (haha, yes I have had to ask silly questions like that). Well, it's not silly, it's just a bad habit, that of being so negative, but luckily, bad habits can be broken. It takes time, willpower, and yes, if you have some nice people around you who remind you of what really counts, and who you really are, that helps a ton too. I totally know how it is to be a shy kid - I was one for a long time, and still am now, in my 30s. But it's okay, in some ways, I wouldn't change it, you know why? 1. When you learn to overcome it, you can help lovely people who are going through the same thing and just need a break. 2. In part because you are afraid to speak, you learn to listen. And to know how to be a good listener, oh sweet thing, that's a priceless talent. How many teachers do you know, that know how to listen? How many parents know how to listen to their kids? How many doctors listen to their patients? Being quiet and listening is even a greater teacher than being an avid reader. So, yes, I am so happy that you yourself know it's getting better because it is. And if you have "setbacks" once in a while, that's fine too - it's just a reminder to keep good healthy habits (only say and think nice things about yourself, be positive, not be afraid of "failure", doing what you love doing vs. what people think you should be doing). Write me anytime you want. Count me in on your friend experience. *hugs* |
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Post by believe&become on Nov 30, 2015 20:10:03 GMT -5
I forgot to say Ghost00 - whilst I do want you to have fun and express yourself, don't do anything you are not comfortable doing, in life or on Internet. If someone is making you feel weird with their comments, I'd recommend you ask someone you trust (your parent, older sibling, teacher etc) to have a look at what they're said/done. Sims4studio is pretty safe but by all means if anyone bothers you, please let the moderators know. And just in case anyone tells you the opposite, telling someone that you're being bullied/abused is ALWAYS the mature thing to do, it doesn't make you a baby, complainer, sissy or anything like that. ;-| If the person you tell can't or won't help you, tell someone else, until someone does something. On to nicer things! I read in your introduction that you are interested in creating something for Sims 4. What would you like to make? I'm sure you're very talented, all shy people are! Do you need any help? |
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Post by orangemittens on Dec 1, 2015 1:07:54 GMT -5
Studio forums doesn't have a lot of hard and fast rules. One of the ones we do have here is no bullying. It has always been safe to post here and, of course, it should always be that way. If anyone has an experience here that is otherwise or receives unwanted PM's please let me know. I am always reachable via forum PM.
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Post by Ghost00 on Dec 1, 2015 7:58:19 GMT -5
You guys are really the best. I honestly don't trust that much people, but I feel safe, here.
Thank you for your support, it's very appreciated... it helps out! <3
I really like this community: everyone seem so nice and polite! (I actually wish my classmates were like you, btw)
Again, thank you so much!
Love & hugs <3
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Post by J Mzungu on Dec 2, 2015 12:29:04 GMT -5
Ghost00 prego! What's on your mind? Say anything! You're not bothering anyone! If they are not interested in what you talk about, if they have any manners, they'll just not bother to answer. And that's not always a bad thing! Anyway, I'm listening. You have my attention. You can also private message me if you want - if it helps any, I'm shy too but I kind of learnt to overcome it most of the time. Have a lovely evening! Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm probably the shyest person on the planet. The truth is that i'm Always so shy and insecure due to bullying and lack of self-esteem. I mean, I know i'm a bit of a odd person. I just want to talk with someone and to make friends, to be as kind as possible, because everyone needs a kind word once in a while.
I really do not speak that much (expecially in real life) and I have something like the social anxiety. you know, the fear of being judged strikes over and over again, after 4 years of bullying
Things get better, by the wayyyy
I'm so embarassed right now, like I don't even know xD
- I understand ya, I'm pretty much the same way. As a kid I loved talking, I even told people on the bus my mum was single and tried pimping her out apparently, lol. But then my dad would hit me and tell me to shut up, so after a while I just got quiet. When I'm around friends I know, I'm like that again, talking and talking. But when I'm in new situations or around people I dont know too well, I just end up being quiet, plus I've developed social phobia, but I try to be better. But the awesome thing about this is, that on here, this forum, you can pretty much say whatever you want, just chat away, dont worry. No one is going to make you write if you dont, but if you do, there will be people here to reply to you. Dont be embarassed, it's brave of you to admit your weaknesses, and it's even more brave of you to put yourself out there and do something about it. I want to make more friends on here and I know alot of other people do too. I think, the Sims community is a very accpeting community, atleast that's what I've seen. Alot of people are gay, have some type of diagnoses or medical issue, and recently I've found on Tumblr that alot of people there also have alot of social anxiety. And I love that... I love seeing people who arent gay supporting gay rights. I love seeing people being able to be opend about their anxiety and see people write nice comments to them. I love that I can write that I have ADHD, GAD and Socialphobia and feel comfortable that I wont get a anonymous message telling me to go kill myself. So, If you dont want to talk, dont worry no one is going to push you to do something you are not comfortable with. But if you do... you got a whole bunch of people here, willing to listen and send you some nice messages. |
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Post by Ghost00 on Dec 4, 2015 12:45:42 GMT -5
That's so nice of you, J Mzungu
It's awesome to see people that actually care about other people even from behind a keyboard... I mean, it's a very mature and polite thing (cause bullying and cyber-bullying come from really stupid people).
I think I will love this community even more than I actually do
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Post by Finn Quill on Dec 4, 2015 19:09:21 GMT -5
AAAAGH! I firetrucking want out!
I'm so tired of the toxicity in my life and I just can't handle it anymore!!!
I've been fucked over so much, and all I wanted to do was help someone I love, and just... augh... I can't do it anymore. I can't deal with anything, I don't care anymore, I want to stop everything.
Sorry... I'm just... I hate everything right now, and I don't know how to get out. I can't do it anymore, and this is my last sanctuary. Thank you to this community for being something small that doesn't make me want to chew on a shotgun barrel...
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Post by Ghost00 on Dec 5, 2015 4:35:08 GMT -5
Finn Quill my dear, things get better!
Sometimes you just have to be patient... life will pay you back sooner or later!
Problems are part of everyone's life, so it's natural to have some obstacles. I think the best thing that you can ever do, is to stay strong.
Cause it's exactly when you fall under the pressure, that things get harder. So stay strong, stay patient and remember: everyone who loves you, will never leave you alone.
L’ottimismo è un magnete della felicità. Se rimani positivo, le cose buone e le buone persone saranno attratte da te.
(Optimism is a magnet for happiness. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be attracted to you.)
EDIT: Don't apologize for your post: everyone gets mad once in a while!
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Post by Finn Quill on Dec 5, 2015 8:29:30 GMT -5
I appreciate the sentiment, but at this point, I've been kicked while I'm down (and while I'm up) far too much to believe that really...
If you're right about people who love me, then in all my life, one person has ever loved me... Not a great feeling, given how many people have claimed to...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2015 8:40:02 GMT -5
God put us all here for a Reason. We all have to go through some, "Sh°t", in Life - some more than others.
You don't even have to believe in any God/s, that is the Ultimate Freedom; But, you are here for a Reason and everything that you do - or choose not to do will effect either you, or other people around you. Someone who treats you like poo will get theirs' tenfold, maybe not the next day...it could take years, but they will get the sh°t too - Sooner, or Later.
Be Proud to have helped someone, even if they were sh°theads - what comes around, goes around.
- Rock On!
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Post by believe&become on Dec 9, 2015 3:16:56 GMT -5
I agree with you Ghost00 but would add three clauses to the " everyone who loves you, will never leave you alone" line, I would make it: Everyone who loves you, will never knowingly leave you alone if they can help it, unless they think you do not need or want their help. I'm saying this because although I wholeheartedly believe there is a lot of love in the world, there is also a lot of misunderstanding, ignorance and pride. So I think the 3 top exceptions of why "good people fall through the cracks" and don't get the support they deserve, are because: 1. Their loved ones didn't realize how much suffering they were going through. Or perhaps putting them through. For example, many parents don't realize that their teenagers are having peer issues until there is serious body harm or drugs or worse. But it's often blindness (and that they are immersed in their own little world) not lack of love. 2. Sometimes their loved ones do know what is going on, but they feel helpless and/or guilty. It's not a good excuse, perhaps, but many people are paralyzed by fear. I have seen mothers turning a blind eye to their abused children in part because their own personality was destroyed and they authentically felt they could do nothing to alleviate the situation. Again, it's not an excuse, but I wouldn't say they don't love their children, only that their own self-hate or self-doubt kidnaps their attention. They might also have some issues that noone knows about (they lost their job, have health concerns, etc). 3. Especially with men and boys, some people mistakenly leave them alone with their problems so they will "man up" (I hate that term, someone said it to my 16-year old cousin when his mother committed suicide and it made my blood boil). Sometimes it is plain ignorance that it will make people stronger, or they authentically believe the person will be able to deal with it well, and sometimes they are afraid they will be rejected if they offer help, or that the person they help will feel weak. What I am saying is, if you don't receive the love and help from someone special in your life, don't automatically think they don't love you - I'm not ruling that out either, but the three situations above happen very often, especially in dysfunctional families and relationships. It doesn't mean there isn't any love, just that there are things that need to improve - communication, relationship goals, personal responsibility, moral accountability... I hope things are better for you now Finn Quill and that you do feel loved and appreciated, albeit misunderstood or misjudged at times. Everyone deserves to feel loved. As for helping people, it's something I love to do, but I have learnt also that it is relatively useless and painful to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. So I do not actively insist on helping adults who have already vocally refused my help - the only exception is when they are completely helpless (children, animals, extremely mentally ill, etc). With some people (including battered spouses, for example who do not wish to end an abusive relationship, or adult drug users who voluntarily go back again and again) the only thing to do sometimes is say, "When you need me, tell me. I'll be here if you want to change your lifestyle" and leave the subject until it can be "productive" again. And another thing - I also feel that "I want help, but just a quick fix, not a change of lifestyle" is not always a good way to help, it kind of fuels the unhealthy lifestyle to last longer. But to each his own, I am no one to judge. Be safe and have a good day. |
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Anyway, I'm listening. You have my attention. 
You can also private message me if you want - if it helps any, I'm shy too but I kind of learnt to overcome it most of the time. Have a lovely evening! 
